by Dov Baron
We’ve all heard it time and time again - your brother, coworker, spouse, or friend is going to change. People love to talk about all the habits they’ll be breaking (or creating), the goals they’ll be setting, and the changes they’ll be making.
And while they likely believe that they mean it, the reality is: they don’t.
How can I be so sure? Well, most people aren’t willing to do what it takes to actually change!
In almost 25 years of leading and coaching, what I’ve found is that most people will say they want change, or agree that they need to change, but only if….
If they don’t have to be inconvenienced.
If they don’t have to give up being comfortable.
If they can hold on to everything from their “pre-change” life that they like.
What it boils down to is this:
“People want to change...as long as they don’t have to change”.
Before you point the finger - this is true of you too.
Every goal in life that you’ve set but not achieved, every habit you intended to break but never quite …
We’ve all heard it time and time again - your brother, coworker, spouse, or friend is going to change. People love to talk about all the habits they’ll be breaking (or creating), the goals they’ll be setting, and the changes they’ll be making.
And while they likely believe that they mean it, the reality is: they don’t.
How can I be so sure? Well, most people aren’t willing to do what it takes to actually change!
In almost 25 years of leading and coaching, what I’ve found is that most people will say they want change, or agree that they need to change, but only if….
If they don’t have to be inconvenienced.
If they don’t have to give up being comfortable.
If they can hold on to everything from their “pre-change” life that they like.
What it boils down to is this:
“People want to change...as long as they don’t have to change”.
Before you point the finger - this is true of you too.
Every goal in life that you’ve set but not achieved, every habit you intended to break but never quite …
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